I have floated high above you
Basking in adoring praise
I have stood right here beside you
In so many ways
Now I hold to you the Power
Do exactly as you please
Standing there so strong above me
I fall to my knees…
Tethered to that black seduction
On a line of amethyst
Leather Lover, my salvation
Is drowning in your amber kiss…
I only wish,
For Longer Lashes,
Loving Lashes,
Falling down on me like rain,
Longer Lashes,
Loving Lashes,
You make me feel again.
Take me gently, bind me tightly
As I’m calling out your name
Shove me harder to excite me
It’s our little game.
If you show me tender mercy
I will only beg for more
Now I know you won’t desert me
Right down to my core…
I can taste
That sweet-sick place where
Flesh and lust and maggots feed
Don’t you waste it with your haste now
Slowly Lover, make me bleed,
Cuz all I need…
Are Longer Lashes
Loving Lashes
Falling down on me like rain
Longer Lashes
Loving Lashes
You make me feel again.
When I wrote this song in 1995, I had been in a relationship
where the man I was in love with received a unique sexual charge from viewing
his partner as a Goddess figure…his romantic, poetic ad said he was looking for
his “Queen”. And he treated me as such
in Many ways. He was always there to
support me and remind me of my worth as a person….he would point out my strong
points and talents if I doubted myself.
And he was an awesome friend….consort, if you will. To my physical person…he was attentive in lovemaking…kissing every
molecule of me into self-acceptance.
Yet I found myself with the need to surrender to him. The more he made me love myself, the more he
opened his heart to caress me with tenderness and as much honesty as he
could…the more I found myself wanting to Honor him, by kneeling, submitting. A bowed head and a willing mouth is what I kept
wanting to offer him.
This song is about a Loving, Committed Relationship, where
in Real Life things are basically Equal…”Best Friends”. “I have stood right here beside you in so
many ways”. Then…in the bedroom, things enter a Different Realm. One partner is more Dominant in the
Lovemaking and one is more submissive.
The Dominant is physically adored…worshipped…by the
submissive.
“Longer Lashes” captures a
yearning desire in the Dominant to surrender.
But what does a Dominant surrender to?
The song speaks on about various metaphors for Kinky
activities. “Lashes…falling down on me
like rain”…Never having had a punishment beating at that time in my BDSM
experience, I was Definitely thinking a “gentle” rain.
“Shove me harder”….Never meant to the point of bruises…and
Unfortunately, “make me bleed" was a choice of metaphor that has been
taken too literally. As I was such
neophyte to the Kink world that I had Never even seen or heard of heavy blood
play…it was a small dash of crimson to go with the jewel tones I was painting
with.
The “sweet-sick” feeling where “flesh and lust and maggots
feed” came from the “funny feeling” I first got in my “tummy” when I was young
(late teens, early 20’s) and thought about kinky, Leather-type thoughts. The first movie I really remember feeling it
with was “Videodrome”…and there were Dominatrixes in “Eating Raoul” and both
those movies gave me this “On the cliff’s edge” feeling….but there was
something More. Something Dizzy. Something I didn’t know until a friend left
some hamburgers in my oven…and I found them 4 days later. They were ROILING with maggots. I just Stopped, …shocked…and Stared. I was Entranced for seconds. The undulating movement, the sheen of their
plump rice shaped bodies…all bursting in shining waves of glistening gray. There was even a Sound.
Take the cliff’s edge and roiling maggots…add the most
intense sexual arousal you can imagine and that is my “Sweet-Sick Place” I don’t know how I put that all together, but
I think and feel in images…and that was how my early Kink experiences felt to
me….a pleasant “funny feeling” with an edge.
Much has been made about the “Amber Kiss”. Amber is golden yellow. Yellow is the color
of “slow down” as a Safe Word (Red=Stop, Green=Go). Amber is for remembrance…as the ancient past
can get trapped in it’s liquid form and fossilized. Or, it could be, like I was thinking at the
time, a secret shared between a couple….an intimacy that is one of the top ten
fantasies….a golden shower. (Really no
big deal…especially if a rare and special occasion and done IN the SHOWER!)
In the end, the song really does ask the question “What does
a Dominant surrender to?”
Through all the talk of wanting to give over “Power” to the
other partner… there is the focus on Self-Enjoyment, and even an Orderly Tone
“Don’t you waste it, with your haste, now, Slowly..” INSTRUCTING the person whom you have just
told could do Exactly as they pleased.
And that is why Longer Lashes is a Love Song first and
foremost. It is about
Relationship. Because kinky sex takes
communication if it is going to be Meaningful.
And partners need to have a level of Intelligence and Tolerance of each
other’s needs.
Because no submissive is always 100% submissive, and no
Dominant is always 100% Dominant. To
pigeonhole a person in a role 24/7/365 is to deny them part of their human
nature. Because we have instincts that
allow to react according to varying situations.
Training a person out of any dominant or self-preservation
feelings could be lethal….So could the social pressure of having to be “Dominant”
ALL the time and Never showing your vulnerabilities.
Relationship, trust and vulnerability is the conversation
that “Longer Lashes” is supposed to open up.
If it Ever has been Misinterpreted as being anything
else…that makes me sad.
Linda Lou Ophoenix
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